What is human life? Why do we come into this world and leave it? Why is the life of one person incomprehensibly short, while another is long and sometimes even painful? Why do some people live in luxury while others struggle to make ends meet? Why is there so much injustice in this world? Why is there illness and death? Why…

Written in the family?

In fact, all these questions are not new, they have been asked and will always be asked, because, unfortunately, there is nothing new in this world. Generations change, people’s capabilities, speeds and technical means, but people in general do not become different.

On the Internet, at the monitors, people argue about large families and politics, liberals and patriots squabble among themselves, thousand-year-old monuments explode, and on panicky news oil markets someone is sweeping away buckwheat in stores. Some people are sad because they didn’t buy the latest iPhone this month, while others are forced to listen to the sounds of artillery salvos, guessing from which side they came this time. These people can speak the same language and even live a hundred kilometers from each other. They just have different sorrows. And values ​​in life are somewhat different.

A man was born. For several years he has been in an atmosphere of absolute joy and care, he is fed, dressed, bathed, he is loved, loved not for anything, just like that. Almost everyone started this way. What happens to us when our lives become more independent? Why do two boys from the same building and from parents with approximately the same income have such different destinies? Is it really possible that something in this world, without their knowledge, is turning in such a way that great opportunities are opening up for one, while the other, even before his 30th birthday, is taken away in a funeral “groove” somewhere out of town? Did all this really happen because it was “written in the family”?

Or maybe ask the question differently? Maybe it's just us? And if life is a gift that is given only once, then how do we manage this gift ourselves? Here's the most important thing...

Trickier than Adam

We don’t just live; besides life itself, we have another amazing gift. We are absolutely free. We have the opportunity to make certain decisions, speak or remain silent, believe or not believe, forgive or not forgive, fight or give up. There are no conditions or circumstances, except, perhaps, death, that would deprive us of the opportunity to perform a volitional action, make a decision or commit an act.

In my pastoral work, in conversations with people who come and very often complain that life is breaking down, that nothing is working out, that everything is lost, and nothing can be returned, I remember the parable of one rich man who came to the elder for advice.

The man did not tell anything new: his life was broken, his wife left, his daughter was hopelessly ill, his son did not communicate with him, and his life’s work had fallen into disrepair due to economic difficulties. The elder advised him to calm down, put himself in order, live the way he lives, pray and not fall into despair. And hang an inscription on the door of his almost empty house: “All this will soon pass.” The man listened to the elder and did as he ordered. And after a while he returned to him with joy, thanked him and told him that everything in his life had miraculously changed for the better. The elder blessed him and said: “Live, thanking God, but do not remove the inscription from the door.”

God. Is He in our lives? Everyone will answer this question differently, and this diversity is also the result of the great gift of freedom that was once given to us. To be close to Him, to live according to His commandments, or not to be and not to live is everyone’s right and choice. People are all very different, but in the whole world and in the centuries of our earthly existence there was not a single person whom God did not love. I would not love as if he were the only one in the Universe.

And although there is nothing new under the sun, and from generation to generation we solemnly carry the same rake to ourselves and our grandchildren, not a single person in this world has repeated himself. Just as there was once only one Adam, so everyone who comes into this world lives, is born and dies in their amazing uniqueness.

We live with our wisdom, which says that “there is something out there in the Universe”, some “mind”, “higher power”, “absolute” and so on. We live, justifying ourselves that God must be in the soul, everything else is not important. But these philosophies are nothing more than a repetition of the mistake of Adam himself, who tried to hide from God in the shade of the trees. We hide from Him too, it’s just that we are already more cunning than Adam, since he hid from his shame and fear, and sometimes it is simply inconvenient for us to live, knowing God, knowing that many of our actions are denounced by our conscience, which testifies to us that we are wrong. And conscience is not just “something in the psyche”, it is something, very often invisible to us, a place in ourselves where God sometimes still lurks.

But we prefer to reassure ourselves that no one has seen God anywhere, and the rest is “from men.”

Moon in Capricorn, porridge in the head

But guessing on the inhabitants of the zoo and other creatures, according to some logic dedicated to a particular year, is something we like and has no doubt about. It’s easy to look for an answer from extinct stars, to gild the pen of a charlatan, or to start a dangerous game with the occult. It's easier than opening the Bible. This is easier than understanding why the Son of God came into this world in poverty and did it so unnoticed? Why didn’t He take it and appear as a formidable king and judge, why didn’t He restore order in one second, and in general - “why didn’t all the good people gather and kill all the evil ones?!”

But there is one very true and also almost imperceptible thought. Everything that is written in the most important Book for us, Christians, is all about how Heavenly Father, through the darkness of centuries and millennia, is looking for all of us, scattered in time and space. About the fact that a person left the joy and fullness of life into darkness and death, but his Creator went after him to find his creation, and not just find him, but also make him a son or daughter of Light. And so strong was His love for each of us that before time and everything that had happened and would still happen, His only begotten Son had to become one of us. And die.

God coming out to search for man - isn't this the love of a real Father? For some reason, it is easier for a “reasonable” person to believe in a faceless absolute than to accept the simple and important thought of the Father caring for His children.

But even after accepting, we continue to be perplexed. If we have an almighty Father, why not start all over again? Why can’t we, sinners and bad ones, be made ideal and pure and placed in a correct and beautiful world, where there will be no trace of memories of sin and death? Yes, because the person himself does not want it!

People ask: why doesn’t God stop lawlessness and tyranny, why does he tolerate injustice and evil? “I’ll believe it if everything changes and everything is wonderful...” But this leads to another question: why don’t you stop yourself when you’re angry, taking revenge, hating, insulting, humiliating and lying? Don't you have the freedom to do otherwise? So isn’t it more correct to look for the causes of evil and injustice not in heaven, but in one’s own structure?

Alarm Signals

What's in a person's heart? He didn’t receive it like a service apartment with furniture; he “arranged” everything himself, he made the arrangements himself. Don't we choose our own path? Is it not through our own ideas, thoughts and decisions that we become us? What then is fate? What else is there and where is it written?

But questions remain. Why are we feeling so bad? Why is it difficult to accept what comes into life as a bitter cup and ordeal? How can I make it easier?

If God followed us in search of us, then He has to walk along a difficult and confusing road, and correcting it in one second would probably be wrong in relation to ourselves. Because against my will. You cannot correct what has been passed, but you can correct the road ahead. True, if the person walking wants it.

Sometimes it seems to me that all the troubles in our everyday life are some kind of alarming signal that we are rapidly approaching something very bad, which could be even worse and more difficult. What is it like a red light, like an elevated temperature. Without it, it is impossible to know that the body is infected. A high temperature is a sign of the body's fight against infection. It's worse if it's not there. It’s unpleasant, yes, but if it’s there, it means you need to be treated.

So it is in our lives. A person complains that everything is bad for him. Maybe it's time to put things in order within yourself? Dirt does not tend to disappear on its own, but it loves to multiply and turn to stone.

We ask a lot of questions about life. To God. To other people. And very rarely - to ourselves. More often than not, in a dark room, the switch may be much closer than we think. Isn't it better to look for him closer to the exit?

Is God fair? Fortunately, no. God is merciful. Yes, most likely, the bombing of Palmyra or the fighting near Donetsk will not stop tomorrow. But, perhaps, if one of us restrains our emotions when someone cuts him off on the road or is rude in a store, if we can forgive, not take revenge and be more merciful, then there will be less evil in the world, and all sorts of the terrible war will come to an end.

Newspaper "Saratov Panorama" No. 03 (1084)

Before reading this text, I must warn you: deterioration in life does not occur overnight, they are the result of gradual and sometimes imperceptible processes for the brain deceived by illusions. It doesn't happen that way! and everything in life became dramatically worse. A person himself prepares the ground for this - he strengthens inadequate realities and unviable attitudes with faith, makes strategically erroneous decisions, ignores facts, etc. and so on.

To begin with, you should understand and accept as an axiom one simple thing, which is that There are no unsolvable problems, there are unpleasant solutions. It is difficult to accept it, because in the minds of many people, a woman’s attitude toward the perception of reality, “what is true is pleasant,” “I close my eyes and all the bad things will disappear,” dominates in the minds of many people. It is with its elimination and eradication that the process of getting out of the ass into which a person has driven himself begins.

Next step– this is a sober look at reality. You cannot correct a situation / solve a problem without recognizing the facts. This is usually made difficult by the fact that the individual is accustomed to lying to himself. Freud also proved that most of our words and thoughts serve to hide the truth. First of all, from ourselves. It’s difficult to figure out your own lies and false interpretation of facts on your own, so smart people turn to those who know how to separate reality from bullshit for help.

In fact, after this step, we can consider that half the path has already been completed. Because an honest and conscious look at reality automatically puts everything in its place and a large (if not most) part of the problems falls off by itself. This, by the way, is the basis of Allen Carr’s methods for overcoming drug addiction (“the easiest way to quit smoking” and others).

Third step is decision making. It seems like a simple action, but it stalls in the swamp of childish infantilism generated by a woman’s upbringing. The average representative of society does not have the desire and ability to live independently, that is, to live freely - he is accustomed to others deciding everything for him: first his parents, then the school and college, then the authorities with the government and money, which the moneyphile-bred man in the street perceives as “universal.” problem solver,” they say, I’ll take it where it needs to be, I’ll pay and there’s no need to strain myself.

And this is where the mistake comes in, because the active, that is, subjective life position ALWAYS involves the application of effort, and any effort requires a certain amount of tension. Otherwise, it turns out, as in that vulgar joke: “And what did you understand, Vovochka? - Don’t relax, otherwise you’ll #boot!” True, you also need to strain yourself mentally, and not like the horse Boxer from Animal Farm, who, in the situation of the onset of another ass, constantly said the same thing: “I will work even harder.” As you know, the horse ended badly - he was sent to a slaughterhouse and soap factory. Yes, you have to work not 18 hours, but with your head.

The degree of tension, by the way, directly depends on the steepness of the solution. You won’t have to work hard to fix or even slightly tint a leaky fence, but the result won’t be particularly beautiful and won’t be very durable. But for a small person with small goals, in general it is quite acceptable. To completely reconstruct a dilapidated house (if everything is really bad in life), all forces and resources must be concentrated into a fist. Well, of course, you need to know WHAT EXACTLY do. Because, as the classic bequeathed, “a specific analysis of a specific situation is the very essence, the living soul of Marxism.”

In fact, the development and assistance in implementing a detailed strategy for overcoming the crisis is the subject of coaching and consulting work. Since this requires operations that are very problematic to do alone - take an honest look at yourself and your life from the outside, clarify your true goals and desires (understand your real, not fictitious purpose/vocation) and discard false ones, subject to critical analysis and revision of beliefs and the attitudes that previously guided me in life and which ultimately led to my ass (after all, our fate is neither more nor less, but the deployment over time of our unconscious attitudes and “game packages”). Well, and various other important things.

“Deceive the Emperor and cross the sea”

Another dissatisfied reader will grumpily say: so, they say, everything is bad, there is no health, life is not going well, debts, loans, no home, no work, in general, I don’t want to live, and then I have to spend a lot of money on the help of a trainer-consultant. I would like some free, effective advice.

But, unfortunately, there is no such thing as free and effective advice. For everything in life you have to pay. And often not with money (a virtual and renewable resource), but with much more expensive resources - time, energy, health...

There is this thing that I called "the theory of last money" and which has numerous confirmations in world practice (for example, the biography of the former poor man Peter Daniels or Edison Miranda, a homeless man who became a famous boxer). Its essence is to put yourself in a hopeless situation when “it’s either hit or miss.”

The fact is that any person always has money, even if he thinks that he doesn’t have it (here, as a rule, we are dealing with a perverted form of lying to oneself). The question is priorities. If survival is a priority, then all the money is spent on it. And a person will do only one thing all his life - survive. If the priority is a leap forward and development, then all his actions will be subordinated to these goals. Therefore, when a person invests all his money in himself, then he has no other acceptable options except to win.

The problem, however, is that the vast majority of people by upbringing have an unconscious ban on winning (hence the life-survival "victim philosophy"). But this can also be treated. The main thing is to step over own fear. Fear of finally becoming yourself, strong and free!

Probably every person at least once in his life asked what to do when everything is bad. Not getting along at work, problems with studies, no personal life, relatives don’t understand, friends betray... But you never know the reasons when a person can despair, give up and become depressed? If you find yourself in this situation, then you urgently need help. And first of all, you must accept it from yourself.

And we will help you do this. How to cope with a depressed state and regain the joy of life? What to do when everything is bad? I hope that the following simple tips will help you overcome problems and change your life for the better!

When everything is bad: we act

1. Don't hold back your emotions. What to do when you feel bad? When did you most recently experience deep emotional distress? Give free rein to your feelings. Everyone does it differently. Some people cry on the shoulder of a close friend, while others throw a huge party to distract themselves. Do what you want (within the law, of course), and you will see that it will become easier.
2. Break the problem down into pieces. Try to think about it objectively and impartially. Identify the cause and think through possible ways to solve the problem, which can be done now. When everything is bad, you want to withdraw into yourself and grieve, but this is not a way out of the situation. To remain in this state for quite a long time means to register two new tenants in your house: depression and hopelessness. Strong people act while the weak sit and feel sorry for themselves. Be strong!
3. Despite the fact that the current situation brings nothing but grief, as it seems at first glance, still think about what it has taught you. It is problems that build character and make a person more experienced and wiser. Think about what exactly your problem taught you, what experience you learned from it.
4. In everything bad, if you try, you can see something good. Analyze your problem and you will find positive aspects that will definitely please you! For example, you dated a young man for a long time, were incredibly happy, and then he suddenly and unexpectedly left you. Yes, it is very painful, but along with the loss you acquired one important advantage - freedom. You are free in your actions, you no longer need to think about what he would say, how he would react, what he would do. From now on, you are your own boss, you have more free time for yourself, and no one has canceled flirting. And flirting, as you know, adorns any woman! That's it! And then, you see, a new love will appear and will be much better than the old one.
5. It is important to tell not only what to do when everything is bad, but also what not to do. Don't become isolated. Don't isolate yourself, don't focus on the problem. At such moments you need to be able to distract yourself. After all, life is so interesting, and you sit and rack your brains over something extremely unpleasant. Meet old friends, spend an evening with the whole family somewhere outdoors, go to night club and have fun with your friend, play sports, start learning foreign language or master new program on the computer, find a new and interesting hobby, get yourself a dog, etc. There are a lot of options! Do what you like and brings you joy. The world will sparkle with new colors, and you will discover such bright facets of yourself that you didn’t even know about!
6. Don't be afraid to ask for help. The support of loved ones, friends and loved ones is very important for every person. After all, these people will always help you get out of a difficult situation, support you and will not leave you to the mercy of fate. If you are lonely, then look for friends. And you will definitely find them. In the meantime, seek the help of a good psychologist. He will help you get back on your feet.
7. And finally, don't be afraid of anything! Perhaps a lot of effort is needed to solve your problem. Does this scare you or are you just lazy. Fight this and don’t be afraid to carry out your plans, even if it is very difficult, and then fortune will definitely smile on you! It is useful to remember one important piece of wisdom. King Solomon did not live such a sweet life as many people think. And he had a ring that helped him survive all the hardships. The secret of the ring is in the inscription on it. And it represents one simple phrase: “This too shall pass.” Remember this in moments of despair. Grief cannot last forever, and happiness will definitely smile on you, just help it a little!

Unfortunately, life circumstances do not always work out the way a person wants. This may lead to depression or stress. It is better to avoid such a state and try to put yourself in a positive attitude.

What to do?

What to do when everything is bad in life? Not every person can easily overcome life's difficulties and solve any problematic situations. Some people need practical guide, explaining what to do when everything in life is bad. Sometimes a person goes through periods when it seems to him that everyone is against him. In these situations, it is important to remember that people’s thoughts have the property of being translated into reality. Therefore, when a person thinks that everything is bad for him, this is actually what happens. Even the weather can be inclement during these periods of life. Troubles follow a person everywhere: at home, at work and even on vacation.

In order to get out of this state, you need to pause and think about whether everything is really so bad. Ideally, you need to look at yourself from the outside. You should also remember that Therefore, you can pay attention to the life difficulties of other people. Then, perhaps, your problems will not seem so significant and large-scale.

How to fight and what to do when everything is bad in life? First, you need to understand what life situation provoked a bad mood and a depressive mood. As a rule, all incidents that lead to loss of strength have long been known. These include: personal feelings towards the opposite sex, financial difficulties, conflicts at work. Of course, this list is incomplete. For example, depression may begin due to death loved one. But here we are not touching on such a serious problem, but will touch on the simpler experiences of people.

What to do when everything is bad? Secrets of success in your personal life and career

So, now let's talk about personal experiences associated with the opposite sex. Both men and women can worry about a breakup. In this case, you should take this problem philosophically and think about what would be better: continue the conflictual relationship and be in an uncomfortable state for yourself, or let the person go and try to improve your personal life on your own. You also need to know that life is set up according to the principle of a pendulum, that is, you need to remember that if a person is now going through a crisis, then after a short period of time the Universe will give him positive moments that will make his soul happy and light. There are often cases when problematic situation turns into a good ending. At this moment, it is worth thinking about the fact that if it had not been there, then further favorable developments of events would not have happened.

Financial difficulties are also one of the most common sources of low mood in people. Men especially worry about this. They think that they are not able to provide for their family. The wife can also “add fuel to the fire.” Instead of support, the spouse begins to demand money from her husband for the family, children and household expenses. Women should not be blamed for this situation, since by their nature they want their children to not need anything, to be beautifully dressed, with shoes, and to attend good schools and sections. Men need to calm down and think about the possibility of changing the area of ​​implementation of their professional skills. Or change, make new acquaintances, etc.

Professional environment

How to behave if a dark streak has come in life? What to do when everything is bad in the professional sphere? If speak about conflict situations that happen at work, then you should adhere to the following rule: you should not take them to heart. Everything that happens in the work team should be left there. We need to look for solutions, and not delve into the conflict and the situation itself. You should not strive to please everyone in the work team.

People come there to make money. Therefore, communication with colleagues should be built in a businesslike manner. Of course, there are friendly teams that move to a closer level of communication. But it will still be better if relations with employees remain neutral.

Reflect on what is happening

What to do when everything is bad in life? Now we will give practical advice. First of all, you should sort out your experiences, that is, figure out what is the cause of the depressive state, and what to do if everything is bad. Next, you need to think about whether there is a possibility of resolving this situation. If yes, then you need to take action to solve this problem. If there is no opportunity to turn the situation in your direction, then it is better to refuse to resolve it and let it go.

For example, when a person has a personal conflict with an employee in a team, he should consider the option of dismissal and changing jobs. You shouldn’t think that after leaving one large company, it will be impossible to get a job in another one. It's better to think that there is more profitable proposition for the implementation of professional skills. And then you won’t have to think about what to do when everything in life is bad.

Positive thinking

You need to learn, that is, to look at all life's troubles through the prism of a smile and Have a good mood. You need to be able to turn any problem to your advantage and extract positive aspects from it.

For example, if a person has financial difficulties and is struggling to survive, it is worth thinking about the fact that perhaps he should change his field of activity and do something else. There is a possibility that he is not in his niche, and his current work does not bring him either moral or material satisfaction.

Forget about bad habits

Don't become dependent on bad habits. People's behavior such as alcohol and tobacco abuse during periods of experiencing any difficulties is common. Should not be doing that! Because bad habits will not solve those problems that require attention. In addition, they will take away a person’s vitality and health. Time will also be lost that could be better spent on solving necessary problems.

Sport

Sport is an excellent support for getting out of depression. Firstly, physical exercise helps improve blood circulation in the human body. And this is directly related to the stimulation of the brain. Secondly, stress on the body allows you to escape from accumulated experiences. People can look at it sensibly and evaluate the situation in which they find themselves. Besides this, excellent physical form will make you feel confident and free in any situation.

Good deeds

Doing good deeds also helps relieve depression or stress. Currently there are many charitable foundations And volunteer organizations who provide assistance to people in need. It is quite easy to join such movements.

They will be happy with any help that is offered to them. As mentioned above, everything is learned by comparison. When a person sees with his own eyes what life situations There are other people, then their problems will seem funny and insignificant to him.

Burn the bad

You have to force yourself to get rid of negative thoughts. Don't constantly think about how bad everything is. In order to tune in to a positive perception, you can write on a piece of paper what brings you dissatisfaction, and then burn this piece of paper. You also need to learn not to cling to bad thoughts. But there is no point in pushing them away either, since in this case the emphasis is also placed on them. You just need to ignore the negativity and let it pass by. But if a positive thought comes to your mind, from which a smile appears, then you can spin it in your imagination, imagine yourself in different situations, which bring satisfaction, give harmony and delight.

Contact a professional

What to do if everything is bad? The psychologist's recommendations should help in solving this problem. If you can’t cope with the problem on your own, then you should consider turning to professionals for help. Psychologists, priests, confessors, as well as friends and relatives can help. You should choose someone whose conversation will make your soul feel better. You need to believe that if you share your experiences with other people, they will decrease. Perhaps someone can help good advice or action.

Positive thoughts will help you get out of it faster. difficult situation, so force yourself to think that everything will be fine tomorrow. Then the question of what to do if everything is bad in life will not arise. There is a practice that boils down to the fact that you need to learn to think about good things as if they had already happened to you. You can practice on simple desires, which are not difficult to achieve, and then move on to more complex tasks. At first, it will take more time to implement your plan. But in the future, the use of such practices will give positive results in a shorter time.

Take action

What to do if everything in life is bad? Action will lead to a quick resolution of the problem. You shouldn’t wait for the weather by the sea and think that everything will resolve itself. It's better to do everything possible actions on conflict resolution. This applies to both work moments and personal experiences. Everything possible should be done to get out of this situation.

Accept what is happening

If a situation occurs that is impossible to influence, then you need to come to terms with it and accept it. Here we are talking about the passing of a loved one from life. You should also learn to approach life philosophically; you should not blame anyone or anything for your problems. If this happens, then it is necessary. We cannot influence any situations that happen to us. Therefore, it will be better to learn to overcome the trials that fate has in store for us.

Conclusion

Don't forget that life is not one day. If it didn’t work out today, everything will be different tomorrow. Friends forgot to call - there will be time and you won’t call. All the clouds that are gathering over our heads are all temporary. Difficulties must be overcome.

“It happens that no matter where you look, everything is bad. I give up, I don’t want to do anything, my soul is sad and, as luck would have it, my friends don’t call, I’m a mess at work, and on TV it’s a complete nightmare, the photos taken by my beloved Sony DSC-TX55 disappeared without a trace on my PC.” - writes the website growth.in.ua. And what to do when everything is bad? How to get out of this state when do you feel bad? What to do?

We offer you a number of tips and hope you find the answer for yourself, what to do when everything is bad.

1. Think only about good things

Remember, absolutely everyone can change their life. All you need is desire. And you need to start changing your whole life with your own thoughts. If you constantly think about only bad things, they will come to you. You have heard the phrase many times that thoughts are material. What does this phrase mean?

2. Speak only about good things

It is not enough to just think about the good, because the word is also material, so you need to talk about the good. With friends, at home, at work, say that life is getting better, everything is just fine. If your acquaintances begin to discuss the topic in front of you: “where is this world heading,” do not support this discussion. After all, you know that everything will be fine, life gets better every day.

3. Don't drink

Don't try to drown all your problems with alcohol. They will only increase. In addition, you will lose your health and a lot of money. The same goes for smoking. This is a direct path to permanent illness.

4. Play sports

We can advise you to go in for sports: it gives positive emotions and health. It is not necessary to achieve records; a regular jog, swimming pool, or morning exercises are enough. It not only invigorates the body, but also strengthens the spirit. After this, you will not want to think about the bad, decide how to overcome depression.

5. Love

Love always changes life for the better. She brings a sea of ​​positivity and happiness into our lives. This bright feeling turns our lives upside down, inspires us to achieve feats and achieve success. How can there be depression if you love and are loved?

6. Give free rein to your emotions

It’s not true that you can’t help your grief with tears. Sometimes it is enough to cry when your soul is bad to see life in a new light, to understand that it is not over yet, that there are other interests in life.

Try to look at your situation impartially. Is she really that sad? Look around how many people around you have it much worse. But they continue to live, rejoice, and fight.

8. Communicate

When everything is really bad, you really want to withdraw into yourself, not see anyone, not communicate with anyone. This is the wrong way. On the contrary, be among people who can listen to you and ease your suffering.

9. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, start taking action.

Stop feeling sorry for yourself: many people have it worse than you. Take action. This is the only way to change the situation. Or start a new life.

10. Ask loved ones for help

Don't hesitate to ask family or friends for help. For any person, timely support can be very important. It will help solve a lot of life problems and find a way out of any situation, especially when I feel bad (What should I do?).